The Unshakable

You are here to crush the "wobble" of insecurity. Right now, a part of you is looking outside yourself for validation, asking the question, "Am I safe? Am I enough?" We are going to stop asking that question. We are going to install the absolute knowledge that you are the Prize. You are the King of your home. You are irreplaceable.

Close your eyes. Drop immediately into the Brown Belt. Feel the weight in your hips. The gravity. Imagine you are a massive oak tree. Your roots go down hundreds of feet into the earth. The winds of emotion may blow. The leaves may rustle. But the trunk does not move. You are ancient. You are solid. You are Unshakable.

Now, visualize yourself walking down a stone corridor in your own mind. You are heading toward the Great Hall. This is the center of your value.

Walking with heavy, confident steps. 10 You are not hurrying. 9 Feeling the strength in your shoulders. 8 Deeper into your own authority. 7 Seeing the massive double doors ahead. 6 Reaching out and pushing them open. 5 Walking inside. 4 You are home. 3 2 1 Fully arrived.

You are standing in the Great Hall of your life. In the center is a massive wooden table. This table represents what you bring to the marriage. Look at it. It is overflowing. See the pile of **Safety** you provide. The roof, the protection, the calm. See the **Joy** you provide. The wit, the humor, the laughter. See the **Passion** you provide. The desire, the touch, the connection. See the **Fatherhood**. The guidance of four children. Look at that table. Realize the truth: **This is irreplaceable.** No one else on earth can set this table but you.

Now, see the "Old You." The insecure man. He is standing by the wall, wringing his hands. He is looking at his wife, waiting for her to smile so he can feel okay. He is an emotional beggar. Banish him. Send him away. He is not you. Now, Step into the **New You**. The Unshakable. Walk to the head of the table. Sit down in the big chair. Feel the wood against your back. You belong here. You do not beg for a seat at your own table. You built the table. Hear the code of the Unshakable: *"I am secure in my marriage. I know what I bring to the table is irreplaceable. I do not need to audit her mood to know my worth. I am the King of my home."* Visualize your wife entering the room. You do not jump up to please her. You smile. You extend a hand. You invite her to join *you* in your stability. You are the rock she holds onto. You are not the waves.

Imagine a moment of distance. Maybe she is quiet. Maybe she is busy. Feel the old insecurity try to rise up—the fear that she is pulling away. Instantly, feel the **Oak Roots** lock you down. You do not panic. You realize: "I am the Prize. Where else would she go? I have the best table in town." See yourself relaxing. Pursuing your own joy. Being the funny, swaggery Rogue. Your confidence is magnetic. By not chasing, you attract.

The wobble is gone. The roots are deep. Counting up. 1 Feeling the weight of your value. 2 Shoulders back, chest open. 3 Mind calm and sovereign. 4 Taking a deep breath of ownership. 5 Eyes open. You are the King.

Sit at the head of the table.